Why Positive Discipline is the Best Parenting Technique
A child with tantrums can be a recurring nightmare for any parent who has not adopted positive discipline as a parenting technique. It is especially embarrassing when a child throws a fit in public attracting unwanted attention and unsolicited comments on your parenting capabilities. In such a situation it is normally tempting to yell instructions to the child or even administer physical disciplinary measures due to the pressure. However, sociologists and early childhood experts gravely disagree with such parenting methods due to their retrogressive nature. Other than making the child more defiant at that moment, it has long lasting effects in their learning processes for example smacking a child when they misbehave may give them the impression that violence is an acceptable way of handling a problematic situation.
Positive discipline on the other hand kills two birds with one stone; positive criticism and non-destructive learning processes. This model of disciplining a child is based on the principle that there only exists bad and good behavior and not bad children. Hence, the focus of this parenting technique is to chuff out the undesired behavior and encourage the good behavior without violence, anger or destructive reactions to indiscipline. Furthermore, this technique comes with added advantages like bonding between the parent and child, building of trust and mutual respect.
Tips on positive discipline technique
The following are some tips on how to master the positive discipline technique. First, do not assume that the behavior is just a tantrum, try to understand the reason behind the defiance. Do not opt for a quick fix, a child could be trying to get attention because you were busy making them feel ignored. Perhaps the child could be feeling tired and wants to nap or if you are outdoors maybe the weather is not favorable making them irritable. After identifying the root of the problem, the next thing is to make sure that you do not lose control. This is called the preaching water and taking wine dysfunction where a parent yells to the child to stop yelling. The only thing that anger achieves is fuelling misbehavior. Calmly correct the misbehavior. The next step is to appreciate the good behavior that the child has exhibited. Adults like flattery children like appreciation. The simple gesture of noticing their good deeds will go a long way in avoiding defiance.
When correcting the child it is preferable to offer alternatives to the undesired behavior rather than just forbidding it. Repeated use of the words “don’t” and “no” might lead to the child getting used to the words such that they block out such directives. Another important positive discipline technique is to ensure that you remain firm in your stand against misbehavior. Under no circumstance should you bribe a child when they act up. A child might interpret such a gesture as a reward for misbehavior or lack of firmness on the parent’s part. Kids like to push limits and if they find out that they can get away with it, they will not hesitate.