All you need to Know about Dating Games
Have you not seen a man professing love to a woman and at the same time showing the woman some signs that might somehow signal otherwise? We have also seen cases where a woman professes undying and very strong love to a man and at the same time displaying some acts that makes the man doubt this love. They are all dating games. The reasons why these games are played by men and women have not been completely explained. Many people see dating games as a result of some felt inferiority, which makes one to seek for ways of knowing how important one is in a relationship. Some others enjoy the simple fact that they play the games, while some men use this to convince them and also show others that they are in control. But, apart from these conscious reasons why men and ladies play dating games, there are some unconscious reasons why these games are played.
How to play dating games
There are different types of dating games played by people according to their situations and convictions. But the simple fact is that the type of dating games played by men is always different from what women play. Many people might view these games with dismay. But it still has its advantages. One African adage says that if there are no such deep quarrels, there will be no such deep reconciliation. Acting out coy, lying, hiding some essential things and throwing out of those lines have become part of what we live for and we must embrace this. So, you just have to learn how to do it well. Here, we are not just talking about men’s games; we are talking about playing games in general.
When you are on the dating games, you must insure that you handle accessibility issues right. This is the number one thing that makes you a real game player. Don’t pretend to be playing games while the other party is there laughing at you because you have busted the dictates of the game. The dating games normally come at the beginning of the dating process and you must not be available whenever he or she needs you. If you can be easily accessed and is always there for them, you are not making them know that you have a full life. This can be bad. Don’t answer all calls and don’t call back immediately.
One cardinal point here is that when you call and your call is not picked and not returned; do not call back the same day. Give up to 3 days before calling again, and when the topic is not raised by the called party, do not talk about it
Another point is that when you are involved in dating games, you must try everything possible not to talk about the past, at least till some time. Do not be quick to say things about the past when you are just getting in. Don’t just spoil this with the past till the new dating is at least some months old. It will get to a time when these types of discussions will be warranted by developments in the relationship. This is always the best time to come up with it.
You must also avoid the act of demanding answers that you might not be comfortable to give. By this I mean that you must avoid those questions that you might not want to answer. If you are not ready to have an answer to a question and is also not ready to answer such if it is reversed, never ask it. This involves asking the new date whether he or she loves you, when you know he or she is still not sure about such and when you are not ready to profess your own love.
Another good thing you must do when the game is on is to always look charming when they are near you. Don’t just sit down and look at them all the time. Move out with others, have fun and enjoy. They are always touched when they know that you are doing great even without them.
Another is jealousy. The issue of trying to get your new date jealous or to get them to want to be with you is good. But you do not have to overdo it. Get a friend of the opposite sex and hang out with him or her hand in hand, to make them want to approach you. When this fails, they simply don’t want to be with you, so you have to quit.
Types of dating games played by woman and how to handle them
We have said that the women play the dating games just like the men. The dating games played by both parties all find their roots in the aforementioned principles. The games played by women also have two dimensions. Some are played while you are getting into the relationship with them, while others come when you have built something between the two off you. Anyway this happens; you must insure that you have all the methods of handling each game handy to avoid being defeated as a man.
Hard to get
The first of the dating games played by women includes the “hard to get” game. Here, she will always come across to you as that girl who is interested, but will not give you any chance to know the amount or level of interest. She hides all things that will point in particular to the feelings, yet generally, he is very much interested and even shows it. consider a girl walking up to you after the community service meeting and asking about your affairs, only to tell you she has no time for you when you demand a coffee date. For you to win such dating games, you have to play along. Two things are involved. Never make her feel you are hurt by the ill treatment. If she did not come for a scheduled date, tell her how the date eventually became a huge success without her. If she refuses to accompany you to a party, explain to her how the lady that eventually did was so wonderful. She is doing this because she has options and therefore wants to know whether you are really serious, so she needs to know you have options too, though you must have shown her how serious you are.
The next of ladies dating games is teasing. This game occurs when you have come a long way with her. She does everything to arouse you and put you in the mood for sex, only to hang you there without agreeing to the real thing. This is a control mechanism, as she wants to dictate the pace of the relationship. Here, you also play along. Just allow her to feel that she is in control. Maintain your dignity by accepting any reason she gives for this. She will eventually come out and succumb. The thing is, girls that make it their mission to conquer you are those who feel they have all it takes as a lady. They are hot and will not give you this treatment. But if you get such, never you beg for it or complain. Play along. She will get tired and succumb.
Jumping through hoops
This is the dating game that involves sending you on humiliating errands and trials, to know the level or extent you can go for her sake. This is one you must not succumb to. Those ludicrous requests like bringing her some beans and picking it for her before she comes home are ones you must say abrupt no to. If you must do these, it must come from you and not from her. She will make a jest of you if this happens.
The jealousy game
They will always play this. This game involves playing around with guys when you are around, and this is meant to inspire some level of interest from you. This is to know how you will react. The best reaction here is t tell her that you are the man and you know what you want. You might just overlook this and mention it in a subtle way when next you are with her or more appropriately call her out from the crowd, explain to her your desire to consolidate what you have with her and then demand to know what she wants and her opinion about what you just said. If she wants you, you will get an explanation about the incident with the guy, but if she accuses you, just call it quits, she is not serious.
Some of the dating games men play
The dating games men play normally happen when the relationship has started. I have discovered that many of them normally play these dating games as a revenge for the games they had to stomach from the ladies when they were at the initial stage of the relationship.
Phone number game
This is the dating game that involves the collection of phone numbers from almost every girl you meet out there and stockpiling these numbers on your phone book without even calling them for once. The main aim here is still to get her to be very jealous of you and to think that you have a lot of things you are not telling her, when in actual sense there is nothing. Men play this game easily because even if there are to be an investigation, nothing will be found out and you will now have the basis to blame her and even take actions for not trusting you.
This game is one that men use to keep their ladies waiting for them. People playing the texting game will text tactically at any given time. Texts are replied after a long period of time and there are no explanations why it is coming late. You also take about two days before you send your own text. Again, you send messages without any expressions of any sort of emotions, everything is made plain and they all come late. The messages seem short, abbreviated and uninterested. .
This is one of the most used dating games by men. Men use this to remind their ladies of all the bad and negative things they have done during the period of the dating. The meaning here is that at any given conversation, they will remind her of all the mistakes made, even if it is over a year ago.
Upset but not saying it
This is one of the dating games that get at the ladies easily. Here, men make things to look so cold. He knows that you have offended him and he is angry with you, but will continue to answer you “I am fine” whenever you ask how he is doing. The thing is that he does not want to be the person to tell you that you offended him. He wants the lady to guess and say it. Of course, if you do, you will apologize first and that means you have accepted the wrong doing.
These are dating games that see the man refusing to talk about the relationship. The lady might bring up topics about the state of the relationship, but the man will always refuse to talk about it by changing the topic each time.